Alright then, back to this Valentine’s Day business!
This time last year, I was quite angry (you can check out that post here) and rightly so! But fear not gentlemen, I promise not to go into an all-male rage this time around.
Before I start, I want to clearly state that I am neither against nor with this holiday. However, it always surprises me how every year the cynics come out to display their bitterness towards Valentine’s.
Yes, like any other holiday, it has become commercial. I know we use the same argument every time, but it’s true. Companies and capitalist masterminds cash in on these occasions by brainwashing us into spending lavishly on flowers, cheesy cards, tacky toys, jewelry, gifts, heart-shaped chocolates and extravagant restaurants. Absolutely nothing to do with love.
So what is so special about this holiday that couples feel the need to go all out, while singles try so hard to enjoy it just as much?
Well, like any other holiday, I see nothing wrong with at least making the effort of spending it with your loved one. Taking them out somewhere, watching a movie, a walk on the beach, an intimate night at home, maybe even making them dinner. All I’m trying to say is, you don’t need to spend horrendous amounts of money or do the typical hallmark activities in order to feel like you’ve had a special Valentine’s Day.
If I were to wake up to a simple post-it note wishing me a Happy V-Day from my partner (and yes they don’t even have to spell it all out), that alone would put a huge smile on my face and make the rest of the day worthwhile for me. After all, it’s the little things that count.
This day is not meant to prove whether your partner loves you or not. It is not meant to rate your relationship, or create a standard in which to live by. It is just an excuse to spend some alone time together, and cosy up to one other. So, I say, why not?
In this fast-paced world, while we all attempt to juggle work, relationships and our personal lives, it becomes difficult to devote any time for our loved ones – especially when there are children involved. So this gives us an excuse to go out of our way and make time, even if it is for just a few hours. Doubtless, this shouldn’t be the only day where we go out of our way, but it serves as a good reminder nonetheless.
As for the recent anti-Valentine’s trend, which is nothing more than a pretense for single people to participate in the holiday by spending it with friends and family to celebrate their singledom – well, I see no need.
I mean, honestly, what is the point? Are they trying to fill a void by taking part in this holiday despite their lack of relationship status? Are they trying to make a statement, that they thrive in their independence? Are they trying to rub it in couples’ faces by enjoying it just as much?
As a woman, I have spent many a Valentine’s Day alone, and yet I’ve never felt the need or desire to go out especially to celebrate. So what if you don’t, or can’t, participate in this holiday? Should we all go out and celebrate Mother’s Day just because we feel left out? It’s silly.
I do wish a select group of friends and family a Happy Valentine’s, sometimes I go so far as to buy a few single roses to give to family, or like today, I bought my 3-year-old niece mini-Valentine’s cupcakes, but I won’t be losing sleep wishing I could have done something special on Valentine’s Day.
So, let the couples do their thing. Your time will come.